Breaking the patriarchal norm of conformity

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Uganda is a predominantly patriarchal society and socioeconomic, political and cultural power are generally held by men. Although the system is slowly changing with girls and women taking up positions of power, the patriarchal systems that oppress women continue to live on. 

 

Breaking free

Uganda is a predominantly patriarchal society and socioeconomic, political and cultural power are generally held by men. Although the system is slowly changing with girls and women taking up positions of power, the patriarchal systems that oppress women continue to live on. 

In my experience as a feminist, I have come to the realization that the patriarchy is deeply entrenched within us as members of society. It is in what we say or don't say, the clothes we wear and are shamed for wearing, the decisions we make and those we forfeit. 

In an environment where the feminist movement is seen as a fringe group with the nefarious aims of bringing about immorality and ruin, individuality is vital. Unfortunately, the herd mentality is thoroughly rooted within that individual liberation is foregone in a bid to fit in the group. I have witnessed many girls and women forfeit meaningful careers and positions of power to conform to the demands of the patriarchy. I have been in situations where I have encouraged girls and women to take up political positions but they have been adamant because "the position is too big" or "that post is for men". Ultimately, I am aware that it is not the bigness of the position that is scary, but the need to satisfy the patriarchal desire to be the woman-subservient and second-tier. 

Sadly, however, much women and girls try to bend to the whims of the patriarchy, it can never protect us from the violence and derision of men. Every single day, I spend time encouraging my sisters to resist, being part of the feminist revolution. It gives me immense joy to know that as a society, we have reached the stage where women can take up power and these rights are constitutionally guaranteed. However, it is saddening to know that women are still relegated to assistant positions when they are capable of so much more. As a feminist, it is my goal to bring about a world where girls and women can make decisions without undue patriarchal influence. 

Therefore as an Afro-feminist, I am fighting for the silenced and the ones dying on hills of oppression. I hope to shift the norm, bring about a world where women are equal to men. A world where women's views are heard and taken into account during decision making. Every story and poem of empowerment I write is a future where girls and women have total control over what they choose to do with their lives. 

By Preta Peace Namasaba